Muriel’s ashes

Charles Cowling

It was the Jubilee weekend and a year since we had all gathered around Muriel’s hospital bed as she told the Doctors that she wanted no more treatment, no interventions, no resuscitation. She told us she had had a wonderful life, she was ready to go, that she wanted to be cremated and she wanted her ashes to be scattered in an open, high place.  This is the place we chose.


Those of  her children and grandchildren and great grandchildren who were able to be there, each took a handful of her ashes and threw them to the wind. Little children keen to ‘have a turn’, adults laughing and crying all at the same time.


I took pictures for those who couldn’t be there – and when we looked at them afterwards we were amazed to see this one – looking like a proud lion above the clouds! Reminding us of her strength and courage in her living and in her dying. A lady who, in her youth had played bridge with the Shah of Persia, raised seven children and been the proudest Nana and Little Nana to so many more.

Into the freedom of wind and sunshine
We let you go
Into the dance of the stars and the planets
We let you go
Into the wind’s breath and the hands of the star maker
We let you go
We love you, we miss you, we want you to be happy
Go safely, go dancing, go running home.


Posted by Evelyn

16 thoughts on “Muriel’s ashes

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  3. Charles Cowling

    Thanks for your appreciative comments. It was a carefully chosen and beautiful spot on a fortunately beautiful day…

    Charles Cowling
  4. Charles Cowling
    Margaret Nelson

    Sounds lovely, but scattering ashes in beauty spots isn’t necessarily a good thing to do. Think twice before you do it, about where you do it.

    Charles Cowling
  5. Charles Cowling
    Barbara Chalmers

    This is a lovely thing to share. Thanks for your generosity.

    Charles Cowling
  6. Charles Cowling
    Rich Martin

    This is what is should be – how great is this?! I love this.

    Charles Cowling
  7. Charles Cowling
    Poppy Mardall


    Charles Cowling
  8. Charles Cowling
    Susan Scrafton

    So uplifting and yes the lion is magnificent

    Charles Cowling
  9. Charles Cowling
    Kathryn Edwards

    Leonine, indeed.

    Charles Cowling
  10. Charles Cowling

    Wonderful, Evelyn.

    Charles Cowling
  11. Charles Cowling
    Gloria Mundi

    Let us not quarrel about who goes first….time and chance run through all things, though it will in fact be me, and I just hope someone takes photos that are half as beautiful.

    Charles Cowling
  12. Charles Cowling

    Thank you – it was an amazing time for us all.

    Belinda – that could be tricky as I rather hoped you’d say something fitting at my woodland burial.

    Charles Cowling
  13. Charles Cowling
    Belinda Forbes

    Evelyn: when my ashes are scattered please read this for me.

    Charles Cowling
  14. Charles Cowling

    What Charles said. Thank you Evelyn.

    Charles Cowling
  15. Charles Cowling

    I very strongly want to say something but I simply don’t have any words that come near to expressing how I feel.

    Charles Cowling

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