At the Telegraph Hay Festival last weekend, Martin Amis opined that women write better about sex than men. They do so, he said, with greater sincerity. Men get carried away showing off their writerly potency.
This set me wondering whether female celebrants write better, more emotionally articulate funerals than men.
Amis went on to say:
“Let me venture a distinction between men’s writing and women’s writing. There is a difference between real sincerity and literary sincerity. When you’re told about the death of a friend you can burst into tears but you can’t burst into song. But I would say there’s a bit more song in women’s writing, there’s more real sincerity in women’s writing.”
I suspect there’s something in this, and that it carries over into funeral scripts. The emotional temperature of a ceremony written by a man is likely to be cooler than one written by a woman, its content thinner.
I suspect that the best male celebrants acknowledge the general superiority and greater emotional fluency of the sisterhood.
On reflection, I acknowledge that this may not be a universally held view.