Do women write better about death than men?

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Charles

 

At the Telegraph Hay Festival last weekend, Martin Amis opined that women write better about sex than men. They do so, he said, with greater sincerity. Men get carried away showing off their writerly potency. 

This set me wondering whether female celebrants write better, more emotionally articulate funerals than men.

Amis went on to say: 

“Let me venture a distinction between men’s writing and women’s writing. There is a difference between real sincerity and literary sincerity. When you’re told about the death of a friend you can burst into tears but you can’t burst into song. But I would say there’s a bit more song in women’s writing, there’s more real sincerity in women’s writing.”

I suspect there’s something in this, and that it carries over into funeral scripts. The emotional temperature of a ceremony written by a man is likely to be cooler than one written by a woman, its content thinner.  

I suspect that the best male celebrants acknowledge the general superiority and greater emotional fluency of the sisterhood. 

On reflection, I acknowledge that this may not be a universally held view. 


 

 

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tim clark
tim clark
10 years ago

Thanks Charles – what with worrying about the credibility of celebrancy in general, and being a chap and all, I may just crawl off and give one of my (female…) colleagues an extra job in about ten day’s time… It may or may not be a universally held view but it is a pretty universally held generalisation. I personally and intolerantly find most generalisations in this work are – useless. And – (don’t misinterpret the tone of this comment pl Charles, I’m largely in agreement as it happens) you conflate two things, I feel: emotional temperature, and thinness of content.… Read more »

Ru Callender
10 years ago

For god’s sake Charles, don’t start reflecting at this stage of the game.

Richard Rawlinson
Richard Rawlinson
10 years ago

Interesting! I haven’t read or listened to enough funeral scripts to judge but I’ve certainly noticed a difference between male and female novelists, even when the woman’s tone is dry and the man’s is sentimental. There’s a sense, even with good male writers, that they’re vainly aware of their artistry. Women, while also clearly crafting imagery and characterisation, often manage to appear less self-conscious. This perhaps allows the reader to focus with fewer distractions on the ‘moral’ dimension, or humanity, intrinsic to the best narratives – the consequences of what people do or don’t do to one another. However, contrived… Read more »

Phoebe Hoare
Phoebe Hoare
10 years ago

Hmm, this is difficult! Academic books and essays: I think I generally enjoy female writers, such as Elizabeth Hallem and Jenny Hockey, but then men such as Geoffrey Gorer and Tony Walter were/are great. Novels: I am currently reading The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy. She has managed to create the most beautifully written and thought-provoking fictional death/funeral I have ever read! Would a male writer be able to create the same atmosphere…not sure…but then John Irving is very witty and humorous when writing about death. Perhaps the sexes tackle death from different perspectives which are both credible.… Read more »

Jed
Jed
10 years ago

Charles is obviously right- he’s a man 😉