Meet the HOT widows

When Mishael Porembski lost her husband, she found the steady stream of pot lucks and coffee clubs wasn’t easing the grief. So she decided instead to sweat through her grief by training for an Iron Girl triathlon. 

She felt so much better for doing it that she created HOT Widows and invited other widows to join her. They get HOT in the conventional sense, through their exertions, and HOT in an acronymic sense. HOT stands for Healthy Optimistic Thriving. There’s a team of them training for the next Iron Girl event — and their stories are both brave and touching. 

Sounds like a brilliant form of grief therapy to us. Go Team HOT Widow!

Trebles all round

From the Evening Standard

Dignity, the funeral care specialist, has again shown there is only one line of work guaranteed to be recession-proof: death.

The group increased the number of funerals it performed to 63,200 last year as it benefited from a rise in deaths in Britain to 551,000.

This helped buy cialis from mexico Dignity, the UK’s only-listed funeral care operator, post a 13% rise in full-year pre-tax profits to £45.4?million, with revenues up 9% to £229.6 million, driven by its raising the average cost of a funeral to £3500.

Death in the community

From the At Least I Have A Brain blog: 

Today at Mass  we had an elderly Parishioner to bury, who had no mourners.

Not one.

Empty pews at the front.

It was a stark statement that the little man had been married, had no family, his wife had died, and once he went into a nursing home he became forgotten about by any contacts.

but you know what, the Priest still read a Eulogy at the Homily, 6 hefty Parishioners carried him out, all of my choir sang him out of the Church, and his attendees were the Parishioners.

It was a very poignant statement, and yet a very strong statement of Community.

But i have spoken so much about it since this morning , and was very glad that he got as fullsome (if more lonely) a farewell as any one else would have.

It reminds us of the strength of faith communities. No lonely funerals for them as there are for so many secularists. 

If you watched The Fixer, you may remember Alex Polizzi’s community volunteering idea. 

Actually, it was our idea, and it’s the researchers who were incredibly enthusiastic when we proposed it to them . We think it’s a good idea, too. We’re developing it ourselves, now, because we don’t think it can be all that hard to make it work. Yes, of course there’s an element of risk involved. But the risk of a volunteer making off with a bereaved person’s life savings can be reduced to close to zero with proper assessment and oversight. It’s all in the systems and processes. 

And in the event of the funeral of someone like the lonely man above, there’d a ready-made community of folk to come along and give him a decent sendoff. It is often said that communities have disintegrated beyond repair, but it is notable that where there is need or opportunity, communities display an impressive capacity for forming effective congregations whose activity promotes cohesion and engagement.

Remember how quickly that board filled up on that rainy day? 

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