How wonderfully funny it would be to see a funeral director greeted at t’crem with a hearty chorus of this from the assembled grievers. “Where did you get that hat? Where did you get that tile? Isn’t it a nobby one, and just the proper style? I should like
“The burnt ashes are put into a cremulator that grinds them fine and grinds the bits. Some funeral homes prefer not to grind all the bits out, so that you can see it’s the remains. It’s a bit like peanut butter. Some prefer chunky. Some prefer smooth.” From
There’s an interesting article about grieving in the New York Times. The writer describes an accidental discovery of the value of secular shiva. First, what’s shiva? Named after the Hebrew word for “seven,” shiva is a weeklong mourning period, dating back to biblical times, in which immediate family members
