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I felt so great that we could do it.

Wednesday, 28 November 2012

 

When Anne Conley told her daughter, Georgia Ramin, that she intended to die at home and then stay there for three days, looked after by her friends in the Minnesota Threshold Network, a group who help with home funerals, Georgia was not happy about it: “I thought it was horrible and disgusting.”

Read about it here. And watch the video above. 

 

 

 

 

 

8 comments on “I felt so great that we could do it.

  1. Phoebe Hoare

    Tuesday 4th December 2012 at 11:02 pm

    Thanks Charles! Really interesting read and a lot to take into consideration, but well worth the effort by the sounds of it. Much more appealing and meaningful, to me, compared to the funeral director option. Will be lecturing the family on this at Christmas!

  2. Thursday 29th November 2012 at 8:02 am

    Thank you Charles – please do put me in touch with your nice person from Threshold Care Circle. I don’t see it as a New Age thing. It’s entirely practical. I’m sure lots of people would rather be at home for a few days than kept in a dark fridge.

    This manual looks great, and the NDC Handbook is also very illuminating on the subject. But I’d be scared to tell a family I could support them through this without some practical experience. Maybe I’m being a wimp.

  3. Wednesday 28th November 2012 at 6:36 pm

    Poppy, this is such a good fit for you. I can put you in touch with a nice person from http://www.thresholdcarecircle.org/ She comes to England quite a lot (I just missed seeing her in June).

    I think it’s a shame when people view HFs as forbiddingly new-agey — the province of bohos and the like. It’s a niche choice, but not culturally/philosophically so.

    This is a great manual for home funeralists: http://crossings.net/resourceguide030109.pdf

  4. Wednesday 28th November 2012 at 6:27 pm

    You’re right, Vale. How did the UK fall so far behind? I must ask the web chap to link to it on the home page.

    Some good news is that there’re two groups of celebrants who are looking to start up their own community funeral service. They’ve been in touch. All power to them.

    Cassandra Yonder in Canada has been very encouraging.

  5. Phoebe Hoare

    Wednesday 28th November 2012 at 6:27 pm

    Great video and article, and the idea of a workshop, Poppy, is great too! I would definitely like to give my parents this kind of send off, and would like it myself.

  6. Vale

    Wednesday 28th November 2012 at 6:22 pm

    This is golden Charles. It brings us back to that question about setting up support circles here in the UK – time for a new push for http://www.communityfunerals.org.uk ?

  7. Wednesday 28th November 2012 at 6:01 pm

    Like! Like! Like!

    Is there anyone in the UK who has had a go with this dry ice stuff? It would be excellent if someone would be willing to hold a workshop/training course in how to support families to do this. Or do we need to get these ladies over from Minnesota?

    Thanks Charles – this is amazing stuff you show us.

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