Thoughts of a funeral-goer

Charles Cowling

 

 

 

Posted on behalf of Mrs Mollington by Barry

 

I have not been well lately so Barry, Daisy’s lovely friend, is kindly typing this as I dictate my latest ‘Thoughts’.  He is an excellent touch-typist despite having builder’s hands.

He’s smiling –  he’s a retired English teacher.  But I don’t think he’ll mind if I proof-read it before he emails Charles.  I hope we meet the deadline.

Yes Barry, type everything I say and if there’s time I’ll edit it later.  If you’re not sure, put it in brackets.

(Deep breath…)

Everyone thought I had made a full recovery from that virus and, when Daisy visited me a few days ago, she said how well I was looking.  It was then that I knew something was wrong.  I could see the concern in her kind eyes.  I chose to ignore it, as she chose to ignore the way I struggled to take a sip of tea.

Dehydration.  Nature’s way of telling us we’re ready. 

The following day, I could barely lift my head from the pillow.  My children, Jamie and Alex, were next to my bed, sitting on the high-backed chairs from the dining room.

Jamie was talking quietly.  It was a while before I realised that she was reading from a book.  Kazuo Ishiguro’s sublime The Remains of the Day.  We had discussed it endlessly and we’d watched the film together.  Poor selfless Mr Stevens.  As I listened to my daughter reading, I decided that Anthony Hopkins would never have found happiness with Emma Thompson.  Then I pondered, ‘Why on earth is Jamie reading this to me when I am quite obviously dying?  Could she not find my Pam Ayres?’

(No Barry, I don’t think Mr Stevens wasted his life.  Well, not completely anyway.)    

My son Alex has an important job in the city.  So the fact that he was here in my bedroom in the middle of the morning meant that it must be serious.  That and those dining-room chairs.   He was talking softly into his phone – someone from work.  Lots of technical jargon and the occasional swear word.  Sounded like one of those characters from the mockumentary ‘2012’.  Things have changed since I worked in an office. 

(Yes, I’m positive mockumentary is a word Barry.  Ignore the squiggly red line.  On second thoughts, right click it and add it to the dictionary.)

We’re told that as we die, our lives flash before us.  My mind was a blank, apart from one vivid memory from more than sixty six years ago.  I was eight years old and really poorly with the measles.  Mum decided to fetch the doctor.  When I realised that she was about to leave, I called out in my delirium, ‘Don’t slam the door!’ As my bedroom door was quietly closed, I cried, ‘Noo!  You slammed the door…’

(Yes, Barry.  I’ll let you spell ‘no’ with an extra ‘o’.)  

Since that day, I have never liked being in a room with the door completely closed.  Over the years, my little foible has been the source of many comical incidents.

(No Barry, I’m not going to elaborate.) 

As Alex put his phone on my bedside table, I couldn’t help worrying about my last words.  One could say something noble, only to live a bit longer and end up saying something like, ‘There’s a cobweb up there.’  I have occasionally day-dreamed about this sort of thing in an idle moment. We’ve even talked about it around the dining room table.  Mr M wants to say the words from Spike Milligan’s tombstone, ‘I told you I was ill.’ But I favour, ‘There’s something incredibly important I’ve been meaning to tell you…’  Followed by a slight choking sound and then silence.

(Why do I call him Mr M?  Have you never seen an episode of Columbo, Barry?  The spouse always remains a mystery.)

Back to my dying moments.  As I was wondering whether I had the energy to say any final words at all, I heard a pitiful yelp coming from the landing.  So I mumbled, ‘Mr Chunky wants to see me.’

As I took my final breath, Jamie whispered, ‘Is she?’ But before Alex could reply, I breathed again and they both jumped, stifling short cries. 

When Daisy stepped out of the wardrobe, I should have realised that my grip on reality had well and truly slipped. She was frantically flicking through the pages of the Natural Death Handbook, shouting, ‘Where’s the cremfilm?  We can’t have any leakage!  She promised me there’d be no leakage!’

(Yes Barry, cremfilm is also a word.  And, no it’s nothing to do with keeping sandwiches fresh.)

Then Daisy calmly asked me if it was all right if she measured me for my coffin, adding, ‘Should it be in inches or centimetres?’

(No Barry, I didn’t see a bright light at the end of the tunnel: just Daisy with a look of determination and a wooden ruler.)

I must have fallen into a deep and dreamless sleep after that.  When I finally awoke, Daisy explained that they had taken it in turns to sit with me and Mr M had kept vigil through the night, holding my hand for hours.   It seems I was delirious at one point.  Everyone was extremely worried especially when I cried out, ‘Remember, I want a burial cloud AND Highland Cathedral!’

(No Barry, it’s not that strange.  A burial cloud is a type of coffin.  Yes, it should have a capital B and C.  And yes, I would like a real piper to play Highland Cathedral.  In a kilt.)

 

Postscript from Barry: Lyra is making a steady recovery and is staying with her sister Myra (I think that’s what she told me to say although I’m sure Daisy told me her name is Mary). 

 

 

7 thoughts on “Thoughts of a funeral-goer

  1. Charles Cowling
    gloria mundi

    Lyra my dear, what would Friday be, without your wise words? We hope for – nay, we insist upon – a speedy recovery.


    Charles Cowling
  2. Charles Cowling
    Belinda Forbes

    Missing you already!
    As for a cruise – a bout of norovirus would surely finish her off!
    Get well soon Lyra!


    Charles Cowling
  3. Charles Cowling
    Charles Cowling

    Dear Barry – I’d like to echo what’s said above. Thank you very much indeed for getting Mrs Mollington’s copy to us in time for the deadline, it really is appreciated.

    What an excellent suggestion that is by Vale. A cruise could be just the thing. Do have a word with Mr M.

    Please pass on our best wishes for a speedy and full recovery. I know this may sound odd to you, but Mrs Mollington is, to us funerary folk, an institution and a necropolitan treasure.


    Charles Cowling
  4. Charles Cowling
    Evelyn

    Dear Lyra – what a perfect description of those final moments – or not – as the case hopefully is! It’s just the thought of those manly calves that’s set your heartbeat all akilter ( sorry.) Barry thank you for stepping in to type and post for Mrs M. Lyra, please take a cruise, as Vale suggests, if at all possible and get well soon! We’d all love to know what cruise ships do with the dead – I know they all have a mortuary and believe they sneak the coffins out in the dead (sorry) of night as the living gently sail their lives away.

    James – what a brilliant suggestion! She’d have to find a way of communicating from beyond the grave though…. Barry? How are you as a medium?


    Charles Cowling
  5. Charles Cowling
    james

    Our esteemed Lyra is so effortless in her authenticity, it seems a shame we might lose her so soon. I felt genuinely upset!
    Tarry awhile – or at least, do not go gently, dear one!
    Or, if you have really had enough, speak to us from the beyond – a cornucopia of ‘mystery shopper’ delights from the inside of the funeral parlour fridge and other side of the curtains.


    Charles Cowling
  6. Charles Cowling
    Vale

    Barry, do say to Lyra when you see her next that although she loves her funerals (and we love reading about them) she mustn’t feel any need to rush to become the main attraction. Remember ‘they also serve who only stand and wait’. It does sound as though she’s on the mend. Send her our best wishes for a full recovery and – if I can say this – is there any way to prompt Mr M to take her away for a little while? Cruises are popular and could be just what she needs.


    Charles Cowling
  7. Charles Cowling
    Melissa Stewart

    I love Highland Cathedral too. I think that version is the Royal Scots Dragoon Guards. I’ve got the album and recognised the slightly cheesy synth in the background. Get well soon Mrs M.


    Charles Cowling

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