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Compassion fatigue

Tuesday, 6 November 2012

 

I vividly remember the first day my medical school classmates and I met our cadavers in the anatomy lab. Large body bags lay on metal tables that had been bolted to the floor. I remember the sheer size of the bags best. No doubt existed in my mind that dead human bodies indeed lay within them. And yet part of me couldn’t quite grasp that I was actually going to soon be unzipping them and cutting into flesh through which blood had once flowed as freely as it now did in mine.

Thus recalls Dr Alex Lickerman. He goes on: 

I vividly remember also a classmate of mine—one who’d struck me as being particularly sensitive to others—leaning against the wall at one point, looking pale and shaky. I remember worrying that she was going to faint. 

But she didn’t. And like the rest of us, soon she was cutting into her cadaver with focused precision. Within only one week we all had habituated to the notion that we were dissecting dead people as if they were only mannequins.

My classmate eventually went on to become my colleague, one with whom I’ve since shared many patients. And though technically she was always excellent, again and again it would get back to me from patients to whom I’d send her that she had a poor bedside manner. And whenever I’d hear this, I’d wonder: had she always been only peripherally interested in the suffering of others (as more than one of my patients judged her to be) or did she begin as empathetic and compassionate as I’d first judged her and simply have those characteristics pounded out of her by her training and subsequent years in practice?

As I read that, I wondered about the people we saw on that ITV programme about Gillman’s. Dr Lickerman continues:

Perhaps the most insidious force that gnaws away at our ability to feel compassion is habituation. We have an amazing ability to get used to things—meaning that if repeated again and again something which at first stimulates great emotion (positive or negative) progressively stimulates that emotion less and less. This is why, I think, over time my colleague’s bedside manner deteriorated: she simply got so used to the suffering she saw day in and day out that it ceased to trigger her compassion.

It all makes pretty good sense, doesn’t it? If we’re honest, we can see how people working in mortuaries could, first, lose their sense of dead people as people and then graduate to hating them. 

It put me in mind of a case which a number of people have drawn to my attention but which I did not write about because it seemed to me sad and, because unrepresentative, not all that informative. I may have been wrong. The case involved a funeral service operative (FSO) Grahame Lawler, who stole a purse from a dead woman he’d gone to collect. You can gauge why he did it when you consider what he said when he was arrested: “‘For six-and-a-half years I have been in this job and have seen some very vile nasty and horrible things. Decomposed bodies, people that have been run over, things like that. I saw the purse, I did take it and I thought it was the way out. I have never done anything like this before and I’m sorry.”

It also put me in mind of the funeral director I chatted to last week. The ethos of his business is mortuary-centred. “It all starts there and works its way thorough to everything else. Get it right in the mortuary and everyone else knows exactly what standard is expected and exactly how to conduct themselves to everyone else. It pervades the funeral home.”

Read the full Lickerman article here

 

 

 

6 comments on “Compassion fatigue

  1. Richard

    Sunday 20th January 2013 at 7:34 pm

    Thanks for another thought-provoking post and thread. Well-directed habituation both improves performance and makes intolerable jobs tolerable. Misdirected habituation leads to abuse. The moral compass, pre-habituation, must play a significant role.

  2. Sunday 20th January 2013 at 11:31 am

    The great (-est?) poet of the First World War famously wrote in a letter that his senses were “charred,” and that he hardly bothered to take the cigarette from his mouth as he wrote to families.

    If it can happen to such a sensitive, principled person, it can happen to any of us. Chris’s comment is a reminder of the fact that those who deal with death and suffering are not superhuman, though they may be admirable – they are just human, like the rest of us. Habituation seems to be a psychological coping mechanism; maybe eventually it becomes inevitable. Is the way of dealing with it simply about workloads and training?

  3. Chris the trainee

    Sunday 6th January 2013 at 3:36 pm

    As a police officer working in public protection for the past 15 years (I recently retired after 30 years thank goodness) I know all about habituation. The trick is to recognise it early on and to recognise the effect it has on you when dealing with clients. I am sure that in all professions where we deal with distressed people, we become innured to their pain and angst at the hand that life has dealt them. Inevitably we will categorise people we find and deal accordingly – it’s our way of dealing with it.
    I found that every time I dealt with a new case, I would remind myself why I was there and what good I could do to help this new client. You don’t have to be a saint to work in these professions, you just have to try and live up to the publicity whilst dealing with people
    It helps if you find helping people ultimately rewarding. If you do (like I hope I did) it alleviates the innured feeling considerably

  4. Jed

    Tuesday 6th November 2012 at 8:21 pm

    I saw an amazing TV programme called ‘Donated to Science’ from New Zealand where the would be body donors were interviewed. The programme followed the medical students dissecting these bodies, and the last 10 minutes filmed the students watching those interviews. It was remarkable. See a clip here http://www.thenakedscientists.com/HTML/articles/article/donated-to-science-1/

    or the full episode here mostly in English but with Portuguese(?) subtitles.
    Go to the last 10 minutes….http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hg1QRv5VjKs&feature=related

    I’ve always thought that the measure of any organisation – school, church, company, hospital, funeral director, can be made by looking at the guys at the top. Their ethos/morality/attitude permeates downwards into all the people who work for/below them.

  5. Tuesday 6th November 2012 at 11:08 am

    There may be some truth in this, but if so, what is it that makes some people ‘habituated’ out of all care and compassion and others not?

    • Wednesday 7th November 2012 at 1:22 pm

      this is a really important question – it has impact for all of us. I imagine it is a combination of factors….. culture within an organisation being one. In the story told about doctors it appeared that the woman had great sensitivity and compassion, but perhaps found no way to channel that compassion and decided, consciously or not, to block it. We receive little guidance/support to accept our own feelings and channel them in a positive way and it seems to me that many people I meet are terrified of their own emotions.
      I wonder how much sensible training exists within the funeral industry that teaches how to ‘be’ with certain feelings?

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