The Good Funeral Guide Blog

Bad death, bad memory

Friday, 4 January 2013



Pain that is not relieved in a person’s life continues after they are gone, held as a sordid memory by loved ones.  Just as we retain treasured thoughts of joy, wisdom and warmth, we preserve images of pain.  Unrequited suffering contaminates memory, preventing healing, healthy grieving and closure. This pain in turn flows across our communities, touching many who may never have met the patient.

A poorly managed end-of-life experience can transform families for generations.




One comment on “Bad death, bad memory

  1. Monday 14th January 2013 at 1:45 pm

    I could’t agree more! Thank you for posting this article. Addressing the issue of psychological and emotional pain and distress is a primary focus of The Sammasati Support-Person Training. I completed this powerful training run by The Sammasati Project last year and would highly recommend the next one which starts in March in Dorset.

Leave a Comment