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For the Good Times — Perry Como

Friday, 24 August 2012


Heard on R2 while driving, dedicated by a listener to her dead husband. Interesting, isn’t it, how often people choose parting songs for funerals?

5 comments on “For the Good Times — Perry Como

  1. Richard

    Saturday 25th August 2012 at 4:44 pm

    Nice one, Evelyn, you hipster!

    Noone says it quite like Antony and the Johnsons, imho.

  2. Saturday 25th August 2012 at 4:18 pm

    What about Keane – Bend and Break
    meet you on the other side? meet you in the light?

  3. Richard

    Saturday 25th August 2012 at 1:35 pm

    I also prefer Perry’s version to Al’s but thanks for the comparison link, Peter.

    Charles, when I’ve scanned these ‘Best Funeral Songs Ever’ compilation sites, I’ve also observed how the melancholy melodies enhance the mood of final farewells but the lyrics are often about relationship break-ups rather than loss through death.

    And songwriters approach parting in so many ways, in this case a gratitude for good times passed, other times a desperate longing to stay together, and so on.

    It’s the former that seems most cathartic in the context of bereavement.

    Here’s 1980s hit, I Don’t Want To Talk About It,’ a lovely tune but with words capturing the chaotic emotions of heartbreak.

    And here’s 1990s hit, Everybody Hurts by R.E.M., which offers hope for all who are suffering.

    A rule of thumb might be songs addressing a second person (you) rather than songs in the first person (I, me) work best. That said, 1960s hit Dream a Little Dream of Me’ by Mamas and the Papas is is a favourite melancholy love song.

  4. Saturday 25th August 2012 at 9:15 am

    Perry Como every time for me Paul. What a voice!

  5. Friday 24th August 2012 at 4:45 pm

    Well yes, but what others would they choose? The end of a relationship with a lover you hold dear, and the end of a live of a loved one have similarities in how our emotions feel.
    The Perry Como version of this Kris Kristofferson song is good but a lastsongster prefers the Al Green cover.

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